Ordinary man

Bernd takes me for walks in the snow because he knows how much I love doing that

It’s the title of a song by The Doobie Brothers. It might be the title of other things as well. But it was listening to The Doobie Brothers’ song that got me to thinking.

It created a feeling in me that is hard to describe. It was a mixture of joy (for having such a wonderful man in my life) and remorse (for all the strife I have put him through) and love (for the guy who has stood steadfastly by me for the last 51 years) and I don’t know what else. It was a very complex feeling.

Sometimes we married women expect a lot of our husbands. Sometimes we feel that they can do anything … that they should be able to do anything. Well, I do anyway. I’d be willing to bet others do too.

But the truth is, our men are muddling through this life just like we are. Doing the best they can. They don’t always know what they are doing either.

I watch him struggle with a decision. I watch him as he figures out what to do with a light fixture that doesn’t have a ground. I watch him mow the lawn with single-minded purpose. I see how his tongue flicks out of his mouth now and then when he is eating something he finds particularly yummy. I have anxiety for him when he braves getting high up on a ladder to take down the shutters that I want to paint … and then put them back once I’ve painted them. I watch him overcome all his fears so that I can have what I want in any number of ways.

I love my husband for trying to be extraordinary sometimes. But I love him most for his ordinariness.

The shutters above the garage (one set over each garage door) required a lot of bravery from Bernd. But he got it done with me holding the ladder for emotional support. 🙂
A man willing to do anything just to place a smile on your face is one  worth keeping. #realman #relationship #quotes | Lovers quotes, Love quotes  for her, Quotes
from pinterest I love this quote. Bernd can act a silly fool sometimes just to see me smile. He doesn’t care if he looks silly.

Published by Dianne Lehmann

I'm a writer. But I'm also a wife and a mom to a couple of fur babies. You could call me a cook (but never a chef, I'm not that good) and provisioner as well. Laundress? Yeah. Probably. I design jewelry and I crochet. But mostly I love to write. I love words and how they sound. I love their meanings and origins. I love stringing them together. And of course, I love to read. Thinking about it just now, I realize that what I love most is life and the people around me with a special place set aside for my wonderful husband, our adorable dog and our inscrutable cat. It's the world and the people in it that fuels my writing. So thanks to you all for being the amazing beings that you are.

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